Haven’t we all found ourselves in a place where even though we felt differently about a situation, we went along with it to make someone happy? But how often have we felt good about it later on? A picnic with your group of friends that you weren’t in the mood for, but eventually said yes to and ended up having some of your best moments would classify as a positive outcome. But agreeing with a morally wrong opinion to avoid conflict, wouldn’t leave the most pleasant taste in your mouth would it?
As humans, we all have our individual thoughts and feelings. Sometimes these thoughts and feelings align with others while sometimes they don’t. And even though there’s nothing wrong with the latter, there are times where we hush ourselves and agree even when we don’t feel the same. But is it worth it? Whether we choose to do this to avoid any form of conflict, seek external validation, or any other reason for that matter. Constantly adjusting yourself for the mere convenience of others may only take you on the path of self-destruction.
One might argue that if we genuinely care about something or someone, adjusting our ways shouldn’t have to be difficult, nor should they be matters of complaint. It’s true that adjustments shouldn’t have to be difficult when we hold something or someone important. But in the long run, if these adjustments don’t add to your life as well, how far will you go for the benefits of someone else? It would only leave you to eat yourself up on the inside.
We’re all willing to go to certain extents for the things or people we hold important. We all want to fight for the things we care about, don’t we? So why not fight for yourself just as much? Make adjustments while also setting a boundary of your willingness. Your peace of mind is matters, and if something doesn’t sit right with you, you shouldn’t have to force yourself to make it seem right. And if this means disappointing someone, then maybe that disappointment is necessary. Boundaries exist for a reason, and sometimes they need to be put up even if it feels difficult. Perhaps that’s the time when it’s needed the most.
If we fail to set boundaries, in short, we’re failing ourselves. And if one thinks about it enough, that’s the last sort of failure you want to put yourself through. It’s okay to care about people and work towards providing convenience to them. But when it starts costing you your peace of mind, maybe it’s necessary to take a step back and reevaluate if it’s worth it. Because how far will you keep pulling your boundaries down for others to bask in your discomforts?